“If We Wait Until We’re Ready, We’ll Be Waiting For The Rest Of Our Lives” Lemony Snicket.
I constantly find myself “waiting until I’m ready.” Guess what? I honestly can’t remember the last time I said ‘oh yeah! I’m totally ready!!’ I mean, sometimes I’ll say it to myself, when I have to go exercise, or carry a particularly heavy item. But that’s not really what this quote is all about. This quote is about applying for the job, taking the interview, jumping out of the plane (with the parachute, of course), getting the tattoo, quitting the job, starting the blog, making first contact with someone you like, getting up and speaking to a group of people. These are things we have to psych ourselves up for, and sometimes we never feel “ready.” And we miss out on life! It’s a total bummer. But, I’ve got good news. You’re ready right now. Even if you don’t believe me. Let me share an example. It’s not on the same level as moving to Thailand for a year or going hang-gliding for the first time, but it’s something I’d never, ever think I was “ready” for, and I just did it. And you know what, I did it well! And it felt good!!
ay, so there’s the guy. He’s a total cutie. But he has no idea that I think so. In fact, I’ve only spoken to him once or twice and aside from occasionally waving to each other as we drive by, we don’t see each other. So, I had no way of initiating contact, which was a drag. Until, my father hand-delivered him to my door! Literally. He came to cut our grass.
Anyway, I had to call him about the lawn, (well, I didn’t HAVE to call him, but it was the right thing to do, and I decided I needed the experience and practice facing my fears, plus had he been anyone other than someone I’d been daydreaming about, I’d have called him without thinking twice about it). Now, normally I’d never feel “ready” to make this kind of contact with someone about whom I’ve been thinking. I get very self-conscious, and usually end up telling myself to forget it, I’ll never be ready or feel comfortable, and it’s not worth the potential (perceived) embarrassment.
That being said, making his phone call was understandably a big deal for me. I wanted to be “ready.” I had to figure out what to say so I wouldn’t be babbling, get to the point of my phone call, and still be friendly and casual. Oye vey! So, I procrastinated for almost a whole entire day, waiting to feel like I was totally ready for this, and even as I hit the ‘send’ button, I was panicking and thinking I was going to make a total fool of myself.
Well, he didn’t answer, I left a very nice message, and it was over in 15 seconds. So basically I spent almost 16 hours worrying about being ‘ready’ to do something, that I really wanted to do, that I knew I could do, and I succeeded at it without ever feeling ‘ready.’
Point of that story? I wasted 16 hours of my life not taking action because I didn’t feel “ready.” If I’d just made the phone call when I first realized it needed to be made, I’d have had those 15 ½ hours (because let’s face it, I’d still need at least a ½ hour to figure out what to say), to enjoy myself and keep moving and growing, rather than sitting around being “in my own head” and just waiting.
Go! Live! Prosper!